Comments on: Is sexual advance sexual harassment ? male reader asks

By: Max Cantor

Max Cantor — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 20:04:59 +0000

Looks like 101 Deadly Skills has garnered a lot of interest here. I'll do a book review or summary of it–> Shoot me an email and if I get 10 or more requests it's a deal. Thanks.

By: Max Cantor

Max Cantor — Tue, 21 Nov 2017 18:58:45 +0000

Thanks, Art. You may still encounter yourself in one or more of these situations if you work as a consultant, adviser, lawyer, turnaround , or forensic expert.

Another book I heard about is Spy Secrets that Can Save Your Life (Jason Henson). Will order it.

By: Art

Art — Tue, 21 Nov 2017 07:05:58 +0000

Emerson's book mentioned here it's OK. I'll skim though some briefly:

1. Turning a speaker into a microphone (reverse the polarity of stereo speakers to turn these into microphones, where you call a track phone and listen)

2. Opening a car door with s piece of string.

3. How you can defeat a padlock (you need an aluminum can and hand shears for it)

4. How you can clone a key -with an aluminum can, a pen, a paper clip and a pair of scissors,

5. How to detect tracking devices in your car, using the vehicle speakers as tracking device detector.

6. How to make a water bottle silencer, with a water bottle, stainless steel scourer and fine wire mesh

7. How to build a room hide, steal a vehicle, surviving a drowning attempt, concepts like TEDD: Time, Environment, Distance and Demeanor, used to confirm surveillance and tracking, tails -anonymous operating system that saves no information to the cloud or to the the user's hard drive, How to defeat duck tape, etc.

You don't really need those as John Jack civilian.

By: Senior Reporter

Senior Reporter — Tue, 11 Jul 2017 18:42:32 +0000

I am a Senior Reporter at a major news outlet. Anil's story conceivably is an ethics violation and a company standards deviation. If Anil decides to go public with his story, I would need his full name, address, etc. Before we look at anything we investigate the claims and the subject making them. There is an open outcry in Silicon Valley light of the recent harassment claims (Uber, and also Calbeck and Jonathan Theo which I am very familiar with). Those cases involve texting a subject, propositioning awkward dates, "open relationship asking" and "grabbing someone's thigh". Harassment is pretty fluid, would encompass "anything sexual in nature and unwelcomed". A good and perhaps necessary question to ask is: Have there been any other people complaining about her ?" and "Did you clearly say NO or "That's not acceptable."

If you're afraid of losing your job, my feeling is getting fired from the job will only strengthen a lawsuit.

Sexual harassment is the same offense whether the perpetrator is male or female.

By: Max Cantor

Max Cantor — Fri, 07 Jul 2017 20:03:26 +0000

Sexual harassment is part of the larger issue of bosses overextending themselves. If the person that did it was just another co-worker, you'd tell him/her to take a hike. If it is a boss however, the authority power they have warps some of the boundaries. It is an issue of authority power overpowering the victim's own controls. If, like you said, you stand firm and don't take it, what can they do ? They can fire you, but you stood your ground.

By: Nikesh

Nikesh — Fri, 07 Jul 2017 19:55:48 +0000

Well said, Max ! It's important to pay attention to chronology, does the case fit the facts or are the facts made to fit a case. If it was me, I wouldn't work with someone that harassed me. Period. Fire me if you will, but I will not work with you.

By: Max Cantor

Max Cantor — Fri, 07 Jul 2017 06:00:00 +0000

Marcel,

If women are misbehaving I think they should be held accountable like anybody else. There should be zero tolerance to sexual harassment regardless of the sex of the perpetrator.

If you look at the now famous sexual harassment case involving ex-Uber engineer Susan J. Fowler the impression you get is that she build the case carefully and methodically until solid. (if you haven't read her Feb. 2017 blog entry, it's been quoted a lot in the press). When she left she had a job ready waiting for her (working at Stripe) and it appears plenty of evidence in support of her claim.

If I am innocent and someone came upon me making unwelcomed advances...I wouldn't wait to report him/her...and I'd probably not show up for work the next day on account of the offense. I'd avoid them like the plague. However, if I needed to build evidence, I'd confront them again to catch them escalate [ win !] One isolated incident is unlikely to help me build a case against a company that has controls, manuals of ethics, etc. Of course, once I can document everything and it becomes a repeated behavior, I'll also gather evidence from colleagues that make credible witnesses.

An out-of-control manager could not violate regulations repeatedly (say, after doing the same thing three times over, he would have been suspended, if not fired) unless the reported violations all came at the same time (three persons complaining at or around the same time). That takes careful scripting. I'm just talking hypothetically here. People that successfully win harassment cases have a pretty low burden of proof, nevertheless they need to go beyond the he-said-she-said drama.

By: Marcel

Marcel — Thu, 06 Jul 2017 19:45:43 +0000

When you're dealing with a bitch remember to stay cool.

"Your birth certificate is an apology letter from the condom factor." is what I tell them