What it means to be an alpha male (redacted)

There’s such a distorted perception on the subject of “alpha” from the people I talked to, from the users of this site, that the confusion thermometer is way past “high”. If you had a fever this high, the thermometer would explode. This is your daily dose of redpill reality (check this out, too)

So what does it mean to be “alpha”? Let’s start with what it is NOT in the first two pointers below.

1. People that want to “Save the World”. Saving the world is one of the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. People that say or believe that are idiots. The world needs no saving. The world was here before you. The world will be here in some shape or form after you’re gone. The World doesn’t care about you. Stop saying that PC non-sense.

2. People that want to “change the world.” The world will not change, no matter how much you puke out your guts. Your boss will not change. Stop wasting your energy. Stop trying to be Batman or Superman. Want a better way ?

3. Change yourself-that’s the better way.  A lot of my readers are into daily mantras. Instead of reciting the Scorpion King in Sanskrit or Egyptian, here’s better one:

“Never in a Hurry,

Never Worried,

Never Desperate,

Never Stopping Short”

This comes from Ryan Holiday, The Ego is the Enemy. The four line, 10 word mantra works wonders. In fact, stoicism provides many more maxims that go well. I’ve seen a repository of over 600 of them, but I’ll need to curate them and select post them. If anyone’s got some time and wants to work with me on that over the weekend, let me know.

4. Stop playing Captain Save-a-Hoe. Beta males always come to the rescue of women. Alpha males don’t. A woman, like a cat, lands on her feet even when thrown out of the 7th floor balcony. [Ok, that’s a figure of speech, but you get the draft]. White knights are weak, pathetic.

“Captain Save A Hoe often waste time on these hoes in an attempt at love, even though the whole block done run through her. Captain Save A Hoe often end up in the friendzone, if they do a good enough job.”-Hipwiki

5. Couple of years ago, somebody posted a picture of a pack of wolves asserting the “peck order” of the pack. A photo showed 25 wolves walking in a single file line through a snow-covered wilderness with this explanation:

“A wolf pack: the first 3 are the old or sick, they give the pace to the entire pack. If it was the other way round, they would be left behind, losing contact with the pack. In case of an ambush they would be sacrificed. Then come 5 strong ones, the front line. In the center are the rest of the pack members, then the 5 strongest following. Last is alone, the alpha. He controls everything from the rear. In that position he can see everything, decide the direction. He sees all of the pack. The pack moves according to the elders pace and help each other, watch each other.” photo: Cesare Brai’s .

That picture “explanation” (the alpha last in line) in in fact, false. You can read about it these archives at Snopes. The alpha in the wolf pack is the most protected one. He stays in the middle, not in flanks, any surprise attack won’t fall on him. The pack protects the alpha, not the other way around, Surprisingly and contrary to what you’ve been told all your life, the alpha doesn’t protect the pack. The alpha is simply the most valuable member, so it’s the job of the females, the younglings, and the elders to protect him from harm.

6. Women should only be a secondary interest in man’s life. They’re just not that important. They really aren’t. “The most attractive combination of psychological traits in a man are narcissism and happiness. While betas exist to serve women, women exist to serve alphas. Sometimes this dynamic is subtle; other times women will explicitly enjoy being or feeling used up by their alpha male partners. Treat her a little bit like she exists to serve you to establish the desired alpha-to-female relationship pattern.” -Redpill user on Reddit

7. A common problem with guys who don’t have imposing or statuesque physiques: “I’m 5’6″ and weight 130, I wear glasses and spend 60 hours a week on the computer, how can I leverage myself ?”

“Suffering is the coin of the realm.” -Pinhead (Hellraiser: Bloodline movie, 1996) -is your answer

It is a misconception an alpha male needs to be some James Bond  lookalike who runs ultra marathons every month. There’s no denying looks help. Yet they don’t define the man. You work with what you have.  What is important is to improve and gain a sense of self esteem from doing it.

8. Being alpha in the end means evolving. Accomplished people subdue the world through presence and statesmanship. There is less need for demonstrations of value. When you look at someone like Stephen Schwartzman  you see an alpha male who is seasoned. With seasoned alphas,

-it’s not the argument, they subdue the atmosphere in the room
-they don’t raise the voice or over-explain themselves
-don’t flinch when questioned
-they retain a sense of control even when downplayed or alienated

Michael Milken is another alpha. He is probably the most intense person I have ever seen. These are people over 70 years of age who have an alpha qualifier or A+++.

Donald Trump, on the other hand, is the type of alpha male who has never evolved and is stuck in the 30 year-old phase. The only game DT understands is the zero sum game. That’s why DT is incapable of rising to the stature of his office (to learn about his tricks, click here).

“A man who always defends his position is already weak.”- Max Cantor maxim #51

9. There’s a lot of material on the basics of dating, you can  check out this one out from John Alexander How to Become an Alpha Male .

In conclusion, I’ve selected a few stoic maxims from Github to keep good company (they’re from Marcus Aurelius, Epitectus or Seneca):

“Above all, make this your business: learn how to feel joy.”

“Does the captain of a ship manage it better by not attending?”

“Every day I plead the case against myself as judge.”

“The willing are led by fate, the reluctant dragged. “

“Will your fate.”

“Just as it is not the last drop that stops the water-clock but every drop that has previously fallen, so the last hour when we cease to exist is not the only one to cause death but the only one to complete it: we reach death then but we have been coming to it for a long time.”

“What else are tragedies but the ordeals of people who have come to value externals, tricked out in tragic verse?”

“For what does reason purport to do? “Establish what is true, eliminate what is false and suspend judgement in doubtful cases.” What else does reason prescribe? “To accept the consequence of what has been admitted to be correct.”

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

“”Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.”

“Sickness harms the body, not the will. Say this to yourself with regard to everything that happens.”

“Remember that you must behave as at a banquet. Is anything brought round to you? Put out your hand and take a moderate share. Does it pass by you? Do not stop it. Has it not yet come? Wait till it reaches you.”

“Do you feel no shame in delivering up your own mind to any reviler, to be confounded.”

“Perfect beings have no power to do harm.”


“No sane man fears the gods.

The immortal gods are neither willing nor able to harm us.”


“Thou wilt find that whatever happens takes place justly, and as if done by some one who distributes all things according to desert.”

“This is education, to learn to wish that things should happen as they do.”

“Women are a bad joke God made on men”.

“Thrasea used to say, ‘He who hates vice hates mankind.”

“The noblest virtue is not fostered by incense and garlands, but by sweat and blood.”

“Thrasea used to say that we should take the side not only of our friends, but of the friendless.”

“Animals who lack reason should be treated nobly and magnanimously.”

“He who spares the bad wrongs the good.”

Fun task: I hid a maxim that doesn’t belong in the list. Will you find it ?

For good measure, let’s a video: