The Meaning of Life

Need comes before anything. Do you ask questions before you can get the answers?

Foreground:

In his book, More Transforming Negative Self-Talk, Steve Andreas describes his clinical demonstration with a client, Pamela. Pamela hears a depressing voice in her head. The voice she hears is that of a person who has died, and Pamela is still grieving this loss. 

Steve: OK, so Pamela, you have a voice? 

Pamela: Yeah.

Steve: Tell me what it says. 

Pamela: I have a voice that says that, “Even though I have achieved many things, nothing makes sense.” 

Steve: “Even though -? Tell me again. 

Pamela: “Even though I have many things things going-many things going for me,…nothing makes sense. 

Steve: Ask this person to clarify their message- 

Pamela: That, um,…everything is useless.

Steve goes through some more clarification efforts with his subject

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Pamela: You’re-at the end you’re all alone.

Steve: “At the end you’re all alone.” And again, that’s a conclusion, What’s is this conclusion based on? You know this person, right?…

There is a lot of conversation between the two where Steve gets some specifics about the voice in the woman’s head (where the voice is, tonality, etc.), his method being making friends to the voices in our heads.

My point is the woman has answered questions people often ask before they’re ready. Dumb people want answers to something they don’t need to ask. Then loss and sadness came and unwittingly swept the floor from under and gave you two answers.

1. Life is meaningless. 

2. “In the end we’re all alone and no one’s coming to save you.” -rephrased in the John Reese quote

3. Have fun anyway. That’s where most people go wrong.

Once you got that, you can start working at being a man, which is what I do on this website. Are the answers sad? Yes. True? Yes.

This is Gladiator School. Not sugarcoated advice.