After writing the Memo from April 14 and being barraged with questions, I put some further thoughts here. The fine print. People reading this will understand not everybody needs to be a *playboy* and not everyone can be a playboy. So these ruminations do not apply to most people. You are welcomed to disagree with these points.
- People who didn’t like my Memo’s line “Women are a sport” need to understand women, all women of fertile age are players of men. In other words, men are women’s sport naturally. From day one women learn to manipulate men with a a smile and a cry. Women joust for men’s attention. It starts with their father. A father who caters to his daughter’s needs by welcoming petulant behavior has already set her up to become a master manipulator of men. In the modern American culture there are close to none -think 10 in a million- fathers who discipline and counter the attention-seeker vanity behavior of girls.
2. A playboy – or better, let’s use the term “woman connoisseur” if you prefer-, knows women and knows their vanity is based on thin clouds. As such he does not give any intrinsic value to womanhood. Women derive their value from outside validation. So do a lot of men, but this appearance-based vanity is staple of womanhood.
Let’s get into the meat of the things now
3. A woman connoisseur does not have a relationship with any woman for longer than 6-12 months, at best. This will sound crude to many. but think about it… a couple of months is enough to fall in love and fall out-of-love. After a few months the novelty is gone. Novelty and infatuation are the meat and bones of a love that a woman has for a man. What those “relationship coaches” and therapist won’t tell you, I will. There is no way to regain the novelty.
4. When two people fall in love… they don’t see (they blindly and blissfully ignore) there will be a “falling out-of-love.” Love is a drug. This is not just the title of a song and it is not a stereotype. It’s been scientifically studied and the conclusion is love is an addiction with a similar neural pathways as the heroin and cocaine addictions.
5. As opposed to the regular guy, the woman connoisseur exits before she does. He knows she will get bored, and rather than wait for her symptoms of wear and tear, he walks out. Like any addiction, love has a withdrawal period characterized by deep lows. For all intents and purposes, love is a disease with clinical signs, symptoms and pathology.
6. A woman connoisseur works to tear down a woman’s ego. That’s not because he’s an asshole. That’s because good-looking women have overblown egos. They’ve built that humongous, insatiable ego over years and years of getting attention and supplication from dozens, sometimes hundreds of men. You got to deflate that balloon. One blow in, 9 deflating breaths out.
7. After reading the above, it becomes clear in marriages and long-term relationship people are really just teammates of sorts who stay together for the mutual goal of raising children and having an economic alliance. That’s all there’s is to a marriage. There is not, there can not be “love”.
8. I’ve said it many times before, marriage is a favor men do for women. “Having a relationship” is never the goal of the woman connoisseur.
9. Entire articles and papers, movies and such have been done on the woman connoisseur’s past times and hobbies, eg. they are sailors, adventurers, artist-types, etc. Journalists are known to have access to a large network of people., often women.
10. The main difference between the regular guy and the woman connoisseur is that the connoisseur places negative value on female beauty. The only way to balance that is with his presence.
11. Salt-and-pepper hair, eccentric outfits, earrings, all that helps. How do you stand out from the crowd ?
12. The woman connoisseur knows beautiful women have the world at their feet. He’s asking himself this one question: How do I make myself some money out of it, and have the most fun while doing it ?
We’re going to circle back to the subject of the playboy, since this was just a short outline.
Included: some interviews with Mark Spiegler, the “chaperone” of many women working the high-end adult industry. He may have some insights.