Rejection is a major and constant part of life. I got more than a few emails from people overwhelmingly concerned with being rejected: at work, in life, etc. Since this is a lifestyle publication that has predominantly featured career advice (at least in the middle years: 2016-18), I’m going to give you what I learned:
- If you are/were at a large or mid-sized organization (middle range businesses are those that have 250-500 employees) start looking at small sized businesses and startups.
2. Participate in conferences, developers forums, seminars and strategy forums. The more involved you are in your profession and the more you know about verticals the better. Speak to and meet your peers and avantgarde leaders.
3. Whatever your last employer, your best chances are to get hired by a competitor. This doesn’t change regardless of your industry and profession.
4. If you haven’t bought the Book of the Underdog yet, buy it. It is the best, life changing book on personal and professional development of the last decade. Now, 3 years later and into a new decade, the book still holds as the gold standard.
5. Pivot if you have to. Read the 15 Invalubale Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell and The Big Pivot: Radically Practical Strategies for a Hotter, Scarcer, and More Open World by Andrew S. Winston.
Relationships
All amorous relationships in your life need to be dynamic. We have numerous posts here on relationships from the male perspective: do a search for 2019 and 2020 and you’ll be floored with relationship advice. We don’t follow the mainstream advice on “working in relationships” because once a relationship needs “work” (other than minor corrections) I believe the relationship should be curtailed. Things to bear in mind:
-People naturally grow apart.
-Monogamy is a myth and all the happy couples that I know have or have had, multiple lovers.
-All relationships end in breakups, hopefully the breakup is gracious and well-choreographed, eg. you have a prenup and a postnup.
-The way you got into that relationship the same way you will split up.
-I don’t recommend marriage for men. If you get married you need to clearly spell out your economic arrangement with the woman. No ambiguity. (The honeymoon phase usually ends in 6 months).
-If you’ve made the mistake of getting married and have kids, you need to obtain 50/50 custody. That is for the kids since they need both a father and a mother in their lives.