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Monday June 15th, The WSJ had an article “Negotiating that Raise or Promotion” (Tessa West) I will comment on today.
Unless you are self-employed, most of us today aren’t negotiating for raises, we’re “negotiating” for holding on to our jobs and not being axed in a crashing economy. Forget the raise -nobody is giving any raises, folks. I’m thinking 30% of investment bankers are going to lose their jobs in the next year or so – and they don’t even know it. Who goes out the door first ? Juniors, of course.
I said negotiating with your BB as in Big Brother. See, I call your boss the Big Brother. (of course I know the biggest brother we often use the word for is the government, but what are you going to call your boss, Little Brother ?)
The only way you’ll still have a job in the next few months is if you’re hooking up yours to your boss’s.
We’re not living in a normal economy. We’re living in an economy suffocated by incompetence and artificial status hierarchies.
Back to the article
Tessa West says you need to ascertain your boss social hierarchy status: “hierarchies constantly shift”. Of course they do.
“What does your request ‘cost’ your boss in social capital ?”
Tessa West
“What problems does your request solve for your boss ?”
TW, The Wall Street Journal
Oh ya, like you thought bosses are those little angels here to help people in need. You can read the rest of the WSJ article at your leisure.
Know this: the boss, BB (nice sounding name by the way, bee-bee), whatever, only cares about his/hers social (organizational) status. You either understand this or you don’t.
There you go, Adam Galinsky, “getting inside your boss’s head”.
Here comes my 20+ years of experience dealing with bosses: a very confident boss is just as bad, or worse, than an insecure boss. Bingo ! (Please don’t make this quote into another meme, I’ve had enough of those already).
You need to bring your boss up the ladder of confidence or he’ll lose you faster than a speeding bullet.
With a very confident boss, and we’re talking C-level here, you need to get him out of the stratosphere and back to breathing though the face masks we’re going to be using around one another for at least some time. Unless you’ve discovered a Covid-19 vaccine, he doesn’t care about you.
Talking about Covid-19, remember: there’s no such thing as an “invisible enemy” (I know you’ve heard that term a lot lately.) Your boss is vulnerable no matter what industry you work in or how high up in the hierarchy he’s in.
I wrote this Book, The Book of the Underdog for people like you, who’ve had enough of being pushed aside and away. After dealing with the wild card bosses are for a very long time, I gave you straight up the truth about bosses, careers, negotiations and lifestyle improvements. Written in 2018, BOU is still the Manual for handling your bosses.
After writing the last post, you want more of the truisms I call Max’s maxims. I can spill those out faster than a speeding ticket.
When God spoke to me, He said: I am the God of no mercy. -Max Cantor maxim #11 [redacted]
The way out is following through. -Max Cantor maxim #12
Think of yourself as a company or going concern business, not an individual. For everyone you encounter, boss included, ask yourself: How does this person help out my growth and development ? Are they here to help me or STUNT me ? -Max Cantor maxim #13
Think of your boss as medicine. All medicine outgrows its usefulness. -Max Cantor maxim #14
If a patient keeps on taking cancer medicine and does not stop, that person will die from the side effects. When you have a cold, you won’t keep on taking cold medicine after you got well. Once cured, there’s no need for the medicine. If you keep taking medicine past the prescribed period, the good effects will end and you will have sickened yourself.
Every boss’ wish is to linger in your life past office hours. They think that’s what phones are for.
Make yourself unavailable during your private time. Do NOT answer that phone, do NOT answer that text. -Max Cantor maxim #15
We live in a workplace where, for some ungodly reason, bosses think you must be available 24 hours a day. Unhealthy ! Unwise ! Flip the script ! (one of my favorite words).
Beware, boss love can easily, perhaps overnight, turn into hate. Max Cantor maxim #16
As I said before, boss-subaltern relations are not unlike amorous relationships. Love turns into hate and sometimes hate turns into love.
If you sing praise to your boss, you’ll have to escalate it more and more. -Max Cantor maxim #17
I said it before, bosses are “drug addicts” addicted to the drug of praise. Once you are on that trip, they need a higher dose of the thing every time.
Boss love is tough love. -Max Cantor maxim #18
I am rephrasing maxim #16. Be prepared to have dramatic ups and downs, crashes, I wanna make sure you file for divorce, NOT him. In other words, when it comes to the divorce, you have the upper hand. You put the nail on that coffin !
For me, a boss is just an untrained puppy. -Max Cantor maxim #19
That’s because I have the practice and skill set of training the boss.
Most people have a problem with fear. They are in fear of their boss. -Max Cantor maxim #20
As you read maxim #20 you realize fear and perhaps, lack of self-trust are the biggest issues to overcome with bosses. If you think deeply you will realize there are other “bosses” in your life aside from the boss at work. There is somebody that holds your emotional bonds (girlfriend/boyfriend) and keeps a Pavlovian reward system into place. Also, lot of us are not even aware of our deeply held beliefs which are mentally “bossing us”. We have ingrained conditioning perhaps since childhood and the formative years. Every experience we had is laded onto our consciousness, or emotional bank, with or without our permission.
I propose three ways to shaken our core up to rid ourselves of fear and oppression. Caution: these are not for the faint of heart. They are not suitable for all people! Use them at your own risk. Reading assumes you’ve agreed to the terms and conditions spelled forth at the bottom of the post. I call these exercises:
1. Fu** off your girlfriend.
Who is the most attention grabbing person in your life ? Who has you conditioned like a good doggy ? The answer is your girlfriend (or boyfriend). You are emotionally shackled to her whether you know it or not. Many men are bossed around by their significant other.
Can you develop the courage to say NO to THIS BOSS ?
Saying no could mean just flipping the script on female domination. She pay for herself from now on. If you are spending your money on her, you stop doing that. In addition, she must pay for your expenses from now on. You are being taken care of. You are the eye of the storm. You’re the star.
What is Tom Cruise saying in Magnolia about men ? “
“It is evolutional. It is anthropological. It is biological.”
For those that want to literally offer their partner out to somebody else, a word of advice: it could drastically change your relationship. It may make it stronger, or it may dissolve it. How bad is the life of a pimp ? I don’t know it, ask Snoop or Rosebudd. I can say that I talked to a hooker once. Contrary to the public belief, hookers hold their pimps in high regard, they respect and believe in them. Their pimp is the all star awesome guy ! The Johns are the losers. How many Johns out there paying their way to being “nice guys” ?
2. Reflective practice
Visualize your boss when seeing (and smelling !) anything that is disgusting, dirty, and repulsive. It can be cockroaches, slime, plagues. Call out his (hers) name: slime, cockroach __Insert Name. If you live in a clean spotless household, get in your car and drive to a public restroom that’s awful. See how it looks. Feel it. Then call out the name of your boss.
People look for the “secret” of being the boss. There is no secret other than practice, doing it over and over again.
3, Practice being in control of the small things
Things like wearing the clothes you want when you go to___fill in the blanks. Ordering the things you want from the restaurant’s menu, not what wifey, girlfriend, cousin or your friend wants.
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