Shocking. Not to have any games of your son (or daughter) to attend and brag about to your co-workers.

Shocking. Not to have “proud married to great ____”fill in the blanks of wife/husband’s name.

We’ve taken married with children to the status of virtue in this society.

The Wall Street Journal’s Elizabeth Bernstein had an article The Art of Being Single on March 19th. Excerpts:

“Ms. Tomaszewski began treating herself as she would a partner. She bought herself lavish birthday gifts and took herself out to dinner for holidays. And she began making her bed—just as she did when she was in a relationship and stayed at a man’s house overnight.

‘Now, when I get home I look at it and think: Aw, that’s so sweet. I care about me.’”

Guess what ? Life on the single side of the spectrum is not bad.

Being single is not bad ! Wow, you don’t say. I could be single and still be alive ?

Our society has condemned singles to feeling bad, to being outsiders. It is one of the pressures exerted upon men and women. Stand up against the stereotyping that “includes the assumptions that singles are miserable, lonely or selfish; that they are desperate to get married; that there must be something wrong with someone who is single. ” -E.B. It’s a hard job, surely harder on women than it is on men.

Being a divorcee is not bad. (although they want you to think that it is).

” Previously, Ms. Tomaszewski says, she viewed time alone as something sad. She began thinking of it as quality time with herself. Now, if she finds herself alone for a weekend, she treats herself to a session with a personal trainer, takes a workshop on how to journal or goes to an art museum.

‘I am nurturing my soul right now, just as I would nurture a relationship,’ she says.

1. It is better to be single than to be in a strained marriage.
2. If your marriage needs “working” it is probably beyond “repair”. I don’t need any consultant, psychotherapist, coach to lead my relationships.
3. It is absolutely normal for people to change. In fact, if people don’t change over the years, then you have a problem. No change = no gain.
4. People suddenly unburdened by the bonds of marriage suddenly experience the joys of being single. The joy of owning their lives.
5. You can “find yourself” at any age. Better yet, “create” yourself.

Ice cream time ?

Bulletproof Coffee ice cream recipe

This recipe from Lowcarbediem.com uses uses Dave Asprey’s  Brain Octane® oil combined with his Bulletproof® Coffee: only 2 g carbohydrates for the entire 8 servings it provides.

You need eggs, vanilla extract, lime juice, 12 oz coffee, heavy cream or coconut cream, stevia, vanilla extract and butter. Wife Ice cream maker optional.

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This blog was named the “best alpha male site for techies” at a large symposium -which makes me proud. It’s all about pushing the limits here. “Techies” can mean anything from programmers, web and app developers, entrepreneurs and VCs.  Being the leader of the geek squadron means I can teach technology workers things that Tim Ferriss doesn’t. And I am a Ferriss follower, I listen to his podcasts and bought all of his books. What I write about is a little different.

I teach “Heartless of Gold”. It’s a concept never talked about before. It’s having the heart to put yourself first before the world.

With the “Best of ” of course, comes great responsibility. If I’m at SVOD , Vator LA or PreMoney SF I have to set an example of best practices, integrity and reliability.

Reading list:

1. The End of Loyalty: The Rise and Fall of Good Jobs in America, by Rick Waltzman

2. The CEO Pay Machine: How it Trashes America and How to Stop it, by Steven Clifford

If you haven’t read this book, you can get a taste of it in a WSJ review by Phillip Delves Broughton (Aug. 1st, 2017)

“Apart from aliens from the galaxy Zork-El, corporate directors are the only sentient group who think that CEO pay levels today are justified. Board members-and no doubt well-heeled CEOs-suffer from several delusions, inn Mr. Clifford’s view. Among them, that the CEO is as important to the performance of a company as a quarterback is to a football team. Not true, he says. Many are no more significant than the water boy.” -PDB